My friend is dating my sister

31-Aug-2017 10:58

My sister has been described as a straight shooter.

If she has something to say, she’s not going to beat around the bush.

You see, you might assume that your brother or your guy friends “know how to treat a lady,” and maybe in theory that’s true.

But as a guy, it’s helpful to get some real-life pointers on what to do and what not to do.

So, ladies, reach out to the men in your life, and talk to them about dating—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Maybe you have guy friends you talk to about your dating life.

Or maybe there are other gentlemen in your life who might be worth talking to as you wade through the crazy world of modern dating.

So, as you can imagine, when I inquire about her dating life, I always get a pretty candid response.

Yes, my sister and I talk about how her dates go, and we talk about how my dates go.

I know that it’s much easier for me to be gentlemanly toward a woman to whom I’m attracted.In fact, I think many of us—men and women alike—can get so stuck on finding “the one” that we treat people as less when we decide they aren’t our future spouse.Sometimes we say or do things we would never say or do if we were trying to impress, such as looking at our phone in the middle of a conversation or not asking the other person questions and engaging in conversation. Hearing stories about men who treated my sister disrespectfully on dates angers me, but it also makes me think about my own actions.Guys she won’t hear from for a while who then magically reappear and act like it’s totally normal to go weeks between communicating.

I needed to hear from my sister that, if I’m not interested in a woman, it doesn’t help to beat around the bush or offer up lame excuses to avoid another date.

But hearing my sister’s frustrations about guys who send her mixed messages has given me reason to be more straightforward.